Too honest?

There's a fine line being honest, genuine, true to yourself.. and then also being critical, calling people out, and unnecessary...

This is still definitely something I have to learn... I'm not good at it...

The thing is.. I have a knack for being observant, and knowing when someone is saying bullshit.. particularly if they're not talking to me directly (because I don't have to worry about what to say and can just listen).

But sometimes I'm not aware of why it is that they are saying things... like the underlying need.

For instance.. I may be able to see that someone is doing the undercover brag.. and I'll call them out jokingly and say,  lol I think you really just wanted to mention that whatever whatever....

and they get upset about it.. because it's true.. But I guess the difference is... I don't think it's a big deal.. I mean everyone does it.. I do it.. but it really makes them upset to have someone see through what they are doing...

Maybe because not caring as much, comes with age... or being less worried about what people think when it comes to what I consider to be normal human tendencies.. I dunno.. not sure..

But its hurtful to people.. but I can't help it.. why? Why do I need to always have to point it out? That's not right either..

Its odd.. sometimes I'm too conscious and worried about other people over myself.. and sometimes I'm the complete OPPOSITE.. Why is that?